A friend of mine was sharing a story about how her life has become a very quiet one. She is a girl I’ve known to be all bubbly, upbeat and adventerous. She no longer seems to have any of those traits – It’s sad and at times I see her as a stranger I never met before!
She told me how she her life is less talk and more tears. I wondered if she was stepping into a form of depression. Well, she is not! At least not reached that place yet. And I for one, surely will try my best to not allow her to get any close to depression of any form.
She tells me of how her life has become somewhat boring – the mundane things in life causing her to have the blues. She wants to get out more and socialize and be the social butterfly she used to be. But, something she is not telling me tells me that at this point in her life, after marriage she has succumbed to somewhat of the feeling of not having the actual freedom she used to have to be herself.
I tried to question her state of mind more deeply and found out that she wants to be happy, adventerous and bubbly, but her spouse has drawn upon her such sadness and quietness- too much of this quietness is killing her adverterous bubbly spirit.
For sure, she is not the type who has few words and neither thinks too long before she speaks; she is more of the spontaneous chatterbox who just speaks her minds, not caring too much of what others have to say.
So, is it possible that in a marraige where the spouse is a quiet lonely character could actually influence the other and imprint thier emotional traits making the other into something that they are not? This certainly baffles me !
If you are reading this, I would very much appreciate to know your thoughts on same!